Losing the Way- The Rise of Ego


  1. The Mind

The mind is the faculty of the soul.  It receives the sights and sounds of the world ‘out there,’ as they come ‘in here’ through the eyes. We put all those sights and sounds on a screen of our mind in here. It is in the mind where we create thoughts, ideas, and images, which we radiate from ‘in here’ out into the world ‘out there’, through our attitudes and actions.

Over time, we start to become attached to and trapped in the ideas and images that we have created in our mind. Attachment to any idea or image creates fear. Fear is love distorted by attachment. The vibration of the energy of love is ‘distorted’ on the way out by the object [image or idea] to which the self has become attached. Thus, we experience different feelings of fear, such as worry, tension, anxiety, and panic.

One minute you are able to feel open and loving towards someone, the next minute you create hate towards them when they do not do, say, or be, exactly the way YOU  want。The vibration of love that you were giving one minute turns into hate-fear only moments later, because you have an image in your mind of how you would like them to do/say/be.

It’s as if you ‘shrink-wrap’ yourself in the image/idea in the mind. You ‘shrink’ to the size of the image and you are ‘wrapped’ in the image, which means you are attached to the image. You expect them to be the way you have created them in your mind. When they do not live up to that image, when your expectation of them is not fulfilled, you get fearful, angry and upset.

It’s your attachment to that image that is converting the vibration of your energy from love to fear/anger. If you can drop the attachment, meaning, if you can break away from and dissolve the image on your mind, you can return naturally to the heart of your being. Once the attachments come down, the energy you give is restored to its original and highest vibration–which is love.


  1. The Power of Ego

But this is not so easy, because the ego is established the moment you attach to a false sense of self and does not want to release its false sense of identity. The ego attaches to what you are not—and this is the root cause of all suffering. It attaches to an idea/image/belief; it is not connected to the soul. It is not unconditionally loving, but ruthlessly attached…to an illusion!

As we attempt to detach from somebody or something, we learn one of the most discomfiting and painful of truths—attachment is the source of ALL of our emotional suffering. It is not the attachment to a person or thing that causes our suffering; it is the idea/belief/image or memory that we attach to that person or thing that causes our suffering.


  1. The True Cause of Suffering

It is the EGO and MIND that cause ALL of our emotional suffering. Pain is compulsory, but suffering is optional. Suffering is a choice. Pain is what we feel when something happens to the body we occupy. Pain is physical and suffering is mental-emotional. Pain is a signal your body sends to your brain. The message is you need to change something within the energies of your physical form.

Suffering is what we create at a mental and emotional level in ‘response’ to what happens to our body, and to what we perceive is happening in and to the world around us. Our body could be in pain but we could choose not to suffer.

Suffering is an emotional message that says you have lost control of your perceptions, thoughts and feelings, and if you want not to suffer you need to change the way you ‘perceive and think’ about what is going on around you.

Suffering is a sign that we have forgotten that no one else is responsible for our thoughts and emotions that we create and feel. “It’s always me and not them who make me think and feel this way”, is an insight that can ultimately allow you to free yourself from all suffering- if you want to!


  1. Misconceptions

Is it natural to suffer, is it human nature, and is it what makes us human, or is it a misconception? Misidentification, meaning we do not see who we really are, is the root cause of our suffering. All suffering is human created; we are not helpless victims.

We can use our emotional suffering to form the basis of our sense of who we are. They can range from a quiet feeling of uneasiness at one end to states of extreme stress that might include anything from deep sorrow, insomnia, to rage to terror.


  1. Attachment

Attachment happens when we lose our self in what is on the mind. We don’t even realize we are doing it. We then identify with what we are attaching to and that is the moment the ego is born. At this point, we let an idea, image or belief to shape who we ‘think’ we are.


  1. The Birth of Ego

The ego arises when we let a false sense of identity- through an idea/image/ or belief shape us. At this point, we are no longer the ‘free spirit’ or soul, and we become trapped in a mental form.


  1. Ego Defined

EGO is the attachment to and identification with an image/idea/concept/belief in your mind. All emotions arise from the ego.

Some of the signs that we are letting a false sense of identity- ego- rule us are, feelings of being:









-feelings of superiority/inferiority

Because of these ‘unhealthy’ emotions, we suffer. As such, the ego, and the misidentification of who we really are is the underlying cause of all dis-ease, all suffering.


  1. Cause of Suffering

Ego is not the direct cause of pain, which is natural, but it is the direct cause of suffering, which is unnatural. But it can indirectly cause pain, as with cancer. Emotions and the emotional instability we feel as a result [energy in motion], is the price we pay today for our attachments [misidentifications] yesterday. Emotions arise within consciousness when the self becomes attached to what is on the mind.


  1. What is the Soul?

The Soul is generally linked with the Consciousness, the Self, and Being. They all refer to the “I” that says, “I am”, as distinct from the body that we occupy.


  1. Spirit

While the energy of the physical body is what we call ‘matter’, the energy of the soul/self is what is sometimes called ‘spirit’. One is visible and tangible, and the other is invisible and intangible. Spirit is the being that I am/you are.

You don’t have a soul; you are the soul. You don’t have a consciousness; you are consciousness. You don’t have a spirit hovering around you; you are the spiritual being that animates and radiates from the form you occupy.

The immune system of the soul is within you, the soul! It cannot be separated from you. It manifests as ‘a specific movements of consciousness’.

When the immune system of the soul springs into action, it manifests in the three movements of consciousness, which are:




The first movement is awareness. Awareness comes when you have an uneasy feeling- you are AWARE- that something is not right, but you can’t put your finger on the cause. The second movement- realization- comes when you REALIZE that you are going in the wrong direction. The third movement- transformation- comes when you ‘change’, TRANSFORM, the direction in which you are traveling. You become somebody-something else, and go somewhere else.


  1. The Soul’s Reaction to Dis- ease

When the soul reacts to dis-ease, you first become AWARE of the dis-ease. Then you look into and REALIZE the ‘casual belief’. Lastly, you look deeper and realize ‘truth’ and you TRANSFORM your state of being.


  1. Belief- the Greatest Virus

Belief is the virus that infects and disrupts our consciousness, i.e., our soul/self. ALL dis-eases of consciousness are caused by viruses of different beliefs and our conscious and unconscious ‘attachment’ to those beliefs. Belief is not a truth.


  1. The Truth Will Set You Free

Only the realization of the TRUTH can free us from our attachment to those beliefs and free us from suffering, which will cure us from our dis-ease.

The three phases of the soul’s immune system- Awareness, Realization and Transformation- are the three components of the healing process.

The first phase of the healing process take place when you notice- realize- there is dis-ease occurring within your consciousness i.e. within you! This means being aware of anything from a quiet sense of uneasiness to negative and unhealthy thoughts and feelings about anything or anyone.

Being in this state we know- are  aware of- what is going on inside of us, what is going on within our consciousness, within our self- the emotions within our consciousness.


  1. Unhealthy Beliefs

When we don’t avoid the emotions that we feel, and look into and through those emotions, we ‘see’ exactly which unhealthy belief sits behind the emotion and which is causing the dis-ease. Seeing the underlying belief, which is shaping all the thoughts and emotions, and being AWARE of it, is the first step in getting well.

The second stage is seeing through the feelings of dis-ease and realizing the ‘unhealthy belief’ that has ‘infected’ our consciousness-soul- and which is shaping these unhealthy thoughts and emotions. REALIZATION in this context means seeing, and realizing, the exact belief within our consciousness that is causing whatever dis-ease [emotion] we are feeling at any given moment.


  1. Emotions

All our dis-eases of the soul have symptoms called ‘EMOTIONS’. All emotion is a form of suffering. There are no positive or negative emotions. There is just emotion, or not. Emotion is not to be confused with states of being. For example, Love is not an emotion; it’s a state of being. Authentic happiness is not an emotion, either; it’s a state of being. And pure joy is not an emotion; it’s a state of being.

Emotion happens when the energy of our consciousness is distorted and distracted from its highest vibration, which is its natural state. The highest vibration is love and it radiates from the soul.

Examples of distorting the energy of our consciousness are if we believe- have the belief- that life is about survival and only the strong survive. This could engender the emotion of fear that we are not strong enough or we do not have enough money to survive.


  1. Rediscovering Truth

Transformation takes place within the self through the rediscovery of what is ‘true’. Only the realization of ‘the truth’ can overpower and replace an ‘unhealthy belief’ that is always the cause of dis-ease.


  1. Healing 

True healing means restoring the energy of consciousness to its ‘true’ state or vibration. When this happens feelings of dis-ease are replaced by feelings such as peace, contentment, compassion and cooperation, and intentions such as caring and understanding.

These are emotionless movements of consciousness which shape attitudes and behaviors that create harmonious connections and healthy relationships with others.


  1. Perception Shift

When a truth is realized by the self, it produces a shift in perception, which in turn changes our thoughts and actions. Each of these realizations then has the power to change our state of being and the consequent behavior. They have power to heal the soul, which means to eliminate the many kinds of dis-ease that we are habitually creating and feeling within our soul.

When your consciousness is in states of peace, love, joy, it is the energy of [the real] YOU- the Soul- vibrating at a certain frequency. As you do, you will ‘feel’ it first yourself. As you do, you will be able to vibrate that feeling/vibration outwards.

When you are in a loving state of being, you will be able to adapt that energy of love into perhaps compassion for one person or caring for another or patience towards another.  So you FEEL the STATE you are in and can alter your feeling at will within that state.

To be able to alter your feelings, to adjust the way you use the energy of you, then you need to remain free within your consciousness; free means non-attached.


  1. The Core States

The CORE STATES are states that are prior to any emotion; they are [pure] states of being such as love, peace and joy.

  • A Loving State

In a LOVING ‘state’, when you are being loving [not wanting love], then you are in your most natural state of consciousness. You are at peace within yourself and giving of your energy.

  • A Joyful State

This is not an excited state or an extroverted state; it’s quiet, like subtle song singing in your heart.  You ‘feel’ this way because you are in a state of joy; because there is no emotion in the way.

Most of the time when we use the word ‘love’, we really mean ‘attachment ‘ and ‘emotion,’ which means it will be conditional and relative. It is false love. For us to give pure love we must be free, otherwise it is not unconditional -and real- love. Free in this sense means ‘unattached.’

As soon as we attach our self to somebody or something, we are no longer free and our ‘love’ cannot be pure and unconditional. It is relative.


  1. Beliefs, Attachments, Suffering

Beliefs are not chemicals; they are ideas and concepts from which we have made into forms as our ‘formed’ belief system. The effect of our attachments to this ‘belief programming’ is much emotional suffering and confusion, or the cause of All our stress and unhappiness.

An attachment precedes an emotion; attachment happens first and the emotion follows. For example, when our favorite team loses or another team loses, do we feel the same emotion? We only feel an emotion to that which we are attached- like when our favorite team wins or loses.


  1. Loss of Freedom

As soon as you attach yourself to something [something, some person] then you are no longer free. If whatever you are attached to is damaged or threatened in any way, that’s when you lose the core state of being, and you generate a disturbance within you called emotion.


  1. The Main Emotions

The three main emotions in our lives are:

  1. Fear
  2. Anger
  3. Sadness

When we are creating and feeling any of these emotions we are no longer in a ‘core state’ of being. Our being is in a sorry state! That means an emotional state.

  • Sadness

SADNESS is what we usually call unhappiness. It always follows the belief that we have lost something. Sometimes we imagine we are going to lose something and we feel sad- in advance!

Sadness is a consequence, of the belief in possession and ownership. First, we are attached to the belief that things and people are MINE! Then we are attached to the actual things and people.

But the TRUTH [not a belief] is that NOTHING is ever mine because everything comes and goes. This is a fact of life- and why the pursuit of this kind of happiness ends in suffering and tears. Forms of sadness are melancholy, depression, disappointment, sentimentality and hopelessness.

  • Fear

FEAR is associated with the fear of ‘future’ loss. It is never the fear of the unknown. You cannot fear what you do not know. It is ALWAYS the fear that you are going to lose what you know or what you believe you have. It’s not the tangible things we fear losing; it’s the intangible things- and what losing the tangible things mean and represent to us, emotionally- that we fear losing.

Forms of fear are anxiety [fearfulness about something that may be lost now or in the near future], tension, worry, panic, and terror.

  • Anger 

ANGER is the disturbance that we create when we believe someone else is to blame for our loss in the past, or that stands in the way of our desires and will therefore, be responsible for our imagined loss in the future!

ANGER usually follows sadness as we project our suffering onto another person or an event, both of which we cannot control. ANGER is the currency of conflict. Forms of anger are irritation, frustration, resentment, annoyance, hostility, bitterness, spite, loathing and scorn.

All forms of anger arise from the belief that ‘I am not getting or keeping what I want.’ That is then translated into our heads as ‘you are responsible for my unhappiness therefore, you have hurt me.’

No one hurts you. They may have hurt your body, but not YOU. They hurt your ego perhaps, but not YOU. Only the realization of that inner reality can free us from being infected by the current global contagion of angriness, sadness and fearfulness felt worldwide.

  • Guilt

GUILT- is a mix of sadness, anger and fear. I believe I have done something wrong and I am therefore bad, so I am SAD at losing my self-image based on ‘I am good.’ I then become ANGRY with myself for doing so. And I FEAR someone will find out and then I will lose my reputation in the eyes of others.

You ‘will feel’ each of these emotions as they arise, as you create them. But no one else is responsible for their creation. While each of these emotions is flaring in your consciousness, you are helpless to choose and change what you feel.

Only when the emotion ‘dies down’, and is no longer present in your consciousness, can you choose and change your feelings. The more self- aware you become, the more you will see, feel and know this for yourself.


  1. The Great Liberator 

Transformation is the liberator from ‘unnatural’ forms that the self has created and adopted within the mind. It is when we are able to overcome the false identification of ego and its attachments.

You start to ‘come out’ of [false] beliefs; as you do you are transforming. You are returning yourself to your true form as a free spirit, no longer trapped in anything on your mind. This is also the moment when the unhealthy emotions of fear and anger, start to fade away.


  1. Transcendence

The action of transcending form takes place within consciousness. It is the moment ‘the self’ stops being shaped by whatever form [image/idea, belief] is on the mind. The self comes out of the mind and thereby rises above [transcends] what is on the mind.

The freedom of the self is restored as it returns to its original form as the radiant, invisible, undistorted energy of consciousness and soul. The feeling is one of peace and freedom. The true intention of the self, giving of one’s self without condition, without wanting something in return, is restored.

All the actions are felt and seen by others to be kind and benevolent…at ALL times.


  1. Outward sign

The main outward sign of transformation is the absence of emotion and restoration of our capacity to respond creatively instead of react emotionally.

So when someone breaks an expensive thing, you respond with peace and forgiveness- because you do not attach yourself and its image to the things and people anymore; the thing is a thing and you are you.


  1. Pure Love

When you are peaceful and forgiving, you are not emotional, you are at peace [with yourself] and extending love [of yourself] as forgiveness of the other. You are pure… LOVE


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